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Tip #5: Go At Their Pace
“What has worked the best for us is scheduling in way more time margin and becoming more accepting of messes.” – Michelle K (Mother)
How many times have you felt like your loved one wasn’t going fast enough?! Or are you not happy with the mess that was created?! You aren’t alone in feeling this way!
If we change our schedule from ‘ours’ to ‘theirs,’ then our loved one has the opportunity to learn at the pace that is right for them.
We also need to be accepting of our loved one’s learning process. Mistakes and messes will happen along the way.
Mother Shannon H.S. once shared with me, “I buy the $1 Ikea dishes. That way, I’m not upset when the inevitable happens.”
When we work at our loved one’s pace, we are accepting of the time it will take them and supportive of their learning process.
I’m Eric Goll. Together, let’s take a step forward.
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I added time to schedule and when I feel like telling Chris to hurry, I do a small chore: dishes etc
I have been having Chris put away groceries. I didn’t notice that he put ice cream sandwiches in a cabinet. 2 days later, there was huge mess. It was gross and he was upset that he had to throw box away. He helped clean up and is repeating “ice cream, ice”