When you have a loved one with a developmental disability, you are often told that a group home is the standard (or the best) choice – and sometimes, it feels like the only choice. It can be confusing and a bit overwhelming, especially when a group home does not feel like the right fit for your loved one.
Let me tell you a story…
When Chris moved into a group home with three other people, he was promised a good life. But instead he found himself trapped in a place where he couldn’t even make the most basic decisions: who to live with, what to eat, or even when to take a walk.
Watch the short video below to get Chris’s full story:
Loosing control of their life is a shared by many people who live in group homes. It’s a reality where the freedom to choose is taken away, and independence feels like a distant dream. It is heartbreaking.
The Real Situation in Group Homes for Adults with Disabilities
Chris’ story paints a vivid picture of the challenges within group homes.
It’s not just about the lack of control…
…it’s about the loss of freedom, the absence of choice, and the yearning for a sense of belonging.
Seeking a Better Option For Your Loved One
You would not settle for a life where choices are made for you.
And neither should your loved one.
There are other options and alternatives that prioritize personal preferences, respect unique choices, and encourage a sense of independence, which I discuss in my free Life Planning 101 Guide here.
This guide will provide the tools and resources to create a future where your loved one’s voice matters and their dreams are honored. It will help you guide your loved one towards building a fulfilling, independent life tailored to their unique needs and preferences.
One of the key elements of this guide is finding a home of their own, which can be transformative for their sense of independence and belonging.
So, take the first step towards creating a brighter future for your loved one and download my free guide today.
Chris wakes up startled, sitting straight up in his bed, horrified as screams ring through the walls. His heart almost jumps right out of his chest as he realizes that it’s his roommate across the hallway, and this is the fourth time this week that this has happened. He’s exhausted, but he can’t get back to sleep because those screams are ringing in his head. So, he just rolls out of bed, opens his door, walks down the hallway to the kitchen, and makes a coffee in the Keurig machine. He’s about to take that first delicious sip when he’s startled by a voice behind him. The voice says, “Hey, you can’t be down here in your underwear, and you certainly can’t be using the coffee maker; you haven’t even been trained on it yet.”
This nightmare started a week ago when Chris first moved into the group home with three other guys he only briefly met on a house tour. Chris didn’t choose to live this life; he was told it was going to be best for him. He also was told that it was his only option. When he was told that he would be moving into a house with new roommates, all of whom have a disability, he wasn’t told that he would never be able to do all of these things. He was never told that he wouldn’t be able to choose who he wanted to live with, who entered or didn’t enter his house through the front door. He wasn’t told that he wouldn’t be able to choose what he wanted to eat and when he wanted to eat. He wasn’t told that he wouldn’t be able to choose if he could go for a walk around the block without being supervised. He wasn’t told that he wouldn’t be able to go out with his friends when and where he wanted to. He wasn’t told that he was going to have to abide by quiet hours and when they were. And he definitely didn’t choose to lose two hours of sleep for the fourth time in a week. He also didn’t choose that he couldn’t make himself a coffee in the morning any longer like he always had. And he definitely didn’t choose that he couldn’t walk around his house in his underwear. Chris didn’t choose to lose control of his life by living in a group home, but this was the only option that was presented to Chris.
Let’s be honest, you would not make a choice for yourself to be living in this environment either. There’s better, and you have other options. So, a group home is not the best place for people with developmental disabilities to live. Your loved one deserves better, and here’s the good thing: there are alternatives, and those alternatives are becoming more prevalent.
Yes, it’s going to take some more work to explore those alternatives and to implement those alternatives potentially. There are going to be some hurdles or barriers that you need to jump over, but ultimately, it’s worth it because those alternatives, like creating an individualized home that’s absolutely best for your loved one, are worth it.
Now, I don’t have time in this short video to go into those alternatives, but what you can start thinking about now, you might be asking, well, what are the alternatives to a group home for a person that has a developmental disability or autism? Well, what are all the options that are available for people to live? There are lots of them. Check out my free Life Planning 101 Guide to learn more.