Which of these 2 paths is your loved one on?

February 10, 2022

There are two (2) very different paths for your loved one who has a developmental disability… Which path is your loved one on?!…

The “Special Needs” path -OR- the “Awesome Ordinary” path. Each path provides a very different life experience.

Watch the video below to learn which path your loved one is currently on and how it impacts their life.

The upcoming ‘Life Plan Workshop’ will help you take steps down the “Awesome Ordinary” path.

If you haven’t registered yet, get your free seat below!

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Written Article/ Transcript:

There are two different paths that your loved one with a developmental disability can go down.

The first path is where your loved one has greater independence in their life. They’re continually growing and building their capability. They have people there for them, and they’re intentional about their relationships. They have a paid job, or maybe they’re contributing in ordinary places in the community. They have the right level of support. Perhaps they’re living with supportive roommates or a neurotypical roommate, or maybe they’re living on their own. They have a meaningful life, and they’re excited to get out of bed in the morning. So this is one path, okay. And this is what I call the ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life path. And this is possible for your love your loved one; this is the path that I help many families get on.

I started figuring out the ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life path with my sister and supporting her to shift onto this path. And now, I’ve helped over 500 other families switch onto this ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life path.

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So that’s one path. Now, what’s the other path?

The other path is the ‘special needs’ path.

And this is the path that our loved one with a developmental disability is put by default. This isn’t your fault, and I’m not placing any blame or judgment. The ‘special needs’ path is the path on which the medical system, school system, government systems, and society puts people with developmental disabilities. This path devalues people, holds low expectations, and excludes people. It does not include people, no matter how they try and package it. It’s the path where things are specifically designed for people with developmental disabilities. It’s the group home and the day program.

So there are two paths; the ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life path and the ‘Special Needs’ path. The work that I do with families is to shift from this special needs path (exclusionary) to the awesome ordinary life path (inclusionary). It doesn’t happen all at once. But we can make that shift gradually to the ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life path.

How do we make the shift?

We need a plan, we need to do some learning, and we need to think strategically. This is the work that I do with families so that your loved one is more excited to get up in the morning; they gain more independence, friends that have their back over the long term, and even having their own home.

An ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life is possible for your loved one. It starts with continuing your learning and creating an ‘Awesome Ordinary’ life plan.

The good news is that I’ve got an upcoming workshop where I will show you have to shift from the Special Needs path onto the Awesome Ordinary life path.

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So I invite you to join us for the life plan workshop coming up really soon. You can do that by clicking the link to register below. It’s a two-part workshop. And it’s going to be awesome!

I only offer this workshop twice a year, so if you have registered yet, you’re going to want to get your seat now.

It’s going to be super impactful and transformative for your loved one’s life and your life. So I encourage you to click below and join us in the ‘Life Plan Workshop, and it’s going to be awesome.

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I’m Eric Goll. Together, let’s take a small step forward.

  • The special needs path is easy and convenient, and that’s what social services organizations want. These organizations, almost universally government run, only offer the special needs path of group homes and adult daycare because it’s much easier to slot those with neurological disabilities in these programs than it is to help them become largely or completely independent. Parents too, are usually misled (mostly by these organizations, common misconceptions, etc) into thinking that their neurologically disabled adult children can never become independent and will always need constant supervision and care. Part of the problem on the parents side is that some still retain their caregiving instincts, which became kind of “fetishes”, ” kinks” call them what you will, a kind of reverse munchausen by proxy.

    The fact of the matter is that what’s easiest, cheapest and most convenient isn’t always the best possible solution. What do we get from babying those with neurological disabilities? Not really anything beyond maybe a warm, fuzzy feeling and the satisfaction of a kind of power hero itch.

  • It’s patronizing, insulting and unhealthy to lock those with ANY disabilities, whether the disabilities are physical, psychiatric, neurological, etc, onto the ”special needs” path!

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